Share Memories of Ms. Thacker
Dr. Willmore shared with Wakefield families this afternoon that Wakefield Alumni (Class of ’80) and Pillar of the Wakefield Community, Ms. Mary Thacker passed away yesterday.
These are the last pictures taken of Mary. She and her brother Toby went to visit Wakefield teacher, Ms. Jones in Fredericksburg last Friday. They delivered food, supplies, and fuzzy socks. Ms. Jones said of the visit, “they stood on my porch and talked with me through the window. I took pics of them through the glass or they would’ve been clearer. But it is very clear it was our sweet, fun, caring Mary.” It is clear. With flowers in hand and a smile on her face, she was feeding one of her friends, what Mary did for everyone she came in contact with.
Our deepest sympathies go out to Mary’s family and friends. When details of arrangements become available, we will update this post. For now, please share your stories and memories of Ms. Thacker in the comment section below.
UPDATE:
Wakefield’s College and Career Counselor Mr. Clisham said, “Thank you for your continued support of the entire Warrior Nation, as we mourn and celebrate our dear friend and true Warrior, Mary Thacker.” Mr. Clisham organizes The Money Ball Scholarship with other members of Wakefield’s Counseling Department. He let us know that The Money Ball Scholarship “will now and forever be known as the Mary Thacker Memorial Scholarship.” What a wonderful way to keep Mary’s memory alive at Wakefield.
If you would like to make a donation to the Mary Thacker Memorial Scholarship (MTMS), please mail your check to Wakefield High School, 1325 S. Dinwiddie St. Arlington, VA 22206. Please make the check payable to “Wakefield High School”. In the memo section of the check write: “Mary Thacker”.
Every dollar we raise up to $10,000 will be matched by an anonymous donor!
Class of 2020, MTMS application will be available soon. Awards will be given in mid-June.
Ellen Bartlett • Jun 2, 2020 at 4:28 pm
Toby and family, I responded on Facebook soon after Mary died, but have just now seen this Chieftain posting [thanks to Mr. Evinger]. Since my knowing you and Mary dates back to the 1970’s, on up through my retirement in 1995 and afterwards, I too feel a deep sense of loss even though I hadn’t seen her now for a number of years. She was always the same cheerful, loving Mary — different mainly in the color of her hair! My heart and deepest sympathy go out to all of you in this great loss.
The Schild Family • May 19, 2020 at 2:02 am
Mr. Thacker,
May the God of all comfort be a comfort to you and your family during this deeply sad time. May you feel His presence with you in a special way … sustaining you day by day ….. and even moment by moment as needed. We will continue to remember you in our thoughts and prayers.
Warmly,
Philip and Jean (Kinzinger) Schild
Patricia Healy and Natalie Blouin • May 15, 2020 at 2:50 pm
Mr.Thacker and family, we are so sorry for your loss.
Aimee Puschkin • May 13, 2020 at 11:57 am
Ms. Thacker was forever a bright spot in the world that is Wakefield. Nothing could dull that shine. Every time I saw her – either in the counseling suite or just walking the halls – She would greet me with a hug and a “Heya Pushpin!” and I would say “Hey there, Thack-attack!” which tickled her immensely and she would laugh and laugh. I am so going to miss seeing her and getting her groovy emails around grading time. I will miss her smile, her warmth, and her hugs. She was such a treasure and she made my 4 years at Wakefield some of the best years I have ever had in teaching.
Lisa Styles • May 12, 2020 at 1:38 pm
What a great spirit she had. Ms. Thacker was always so cheerful and kind. I will miss her positive energy and smile. The world was a better place with her in it. My sympathy goes out to the entire Wakefield Family for this loss.
Eben Zimmerman • May 11, 2020 at 10:39 pm
My deepest condolences to Mr.Thacker and the family during this harsh time.
Natali Medrano-Reyes • May 11, 2020 at 3:44 pm
Ms.Thacker was an amazing person she always knew what to say to put a smile on your face. I remember when I was a student at Wakefield high school any time I felt lonely I would go into the counseling suite she would always be there and say “Hey beautiful girl how are you?” It was always nice to know that someone always cared to know how I was. I remember sometimes when I wasn’t able to eat she would offer me a snack. The only thing I regret is not visiting her as much as I could. She cared for you she helped you anyway she could. She would give you the clothes of her back if you needed it. She was an amazing person and now she’s an amazing angel may she fly high. Ms.Thacker will be missed but she will live on in our memories. We will meet again. Rest in peace Ms. Thacker you beautiful angel.
Annette and Dawit Sheckler • May 11, 2020 at 3:20 pm
Dear Mr. Thacker,
Dawit and I were saddened to hear about the passing of your sister, Mary. Our deepest condolences go out to you and your family during this very painful time.
Wishing you comfort and peace in your faith,
Annette and Dawit Sheckler
Debbie Polhemus • May 10, 2020 at 7:32 am
I, too, rejoice in the warm memories of Mary Thacker, wrapping us up in positive “You’re golden!” comments after struggling to deal with the details and decisions of posting grades.
Also knowing that every time I passed by her desk she’d have a kind word and a big smile.
While her chair may be empty, she continues to grace our community space with her generous spirit.
Connie Cochran Bernhardt • May 9, 2020 at 1:30 pm
Bruce and I met Mary when we were young teachers and she was just an 8th grader at Gunston. When Gunston closed, all 3 of us headed to Wakefield. Where years later, we also became colleagues.
At Gunston, Mary was stage manager for a number of the plays I directed as the Gunston drama teacher. At Wakefield, Mary was a student in a couple of Bruce’s math classes and a player on a soccer team Bruce coached.
As long time South Arlington teachers, we developed a real fondness for our many students who we met as kids and continue to know as adults. Mary was truly a beloved member of the WHS comunity passed and present. She certainly was very special to us. She has always been sweet, kind, and friendly Mary, a person whose big smile could light up a room. She will be missed by many but she certainly has earned her angel wings. ❤
Nancy McKenna • May 8, 2020 at 2:43 pm
Mary treated all she met as though they were old and cherished friends. This was true for staff and students alike. She will be greatly missed and it is my hope that our fond memories will offer comfort to her family and friends at this very sad time.
Nancy McKenna
Dan Harris • May 8, 2020 at 12:21 pm
Mary will be missed by all. She would always ask me how my kids were doing (she knew all of them by name). Many a time I would enter the counseling suite in a rush with some problem I was trying to solve and upon leaving I would be “feeling groovy”. I love what Moada wrote about Mary’s hugs, I think we all need a hug sometimes.
Rabia Cheema • May 7, 2020 at 10:47 pm
Praying for everyone affected by this. I am truly devastated and still shocked by Ms. Thacker leaving us. I can’t believe the person that always made my day, is no longer here. I am thankful that I got the opportunity this school year to get closer to her as a student in her 3rd and Warriors’ period. She helped me through very tough times and always had a way of putting a smile on my face…whether it was buying each other breakfast or just simply getting a hug and kiss from her. Without her, I wouldn’t have finished my Senior Project, have a wonderful birthday, or get through the school year.
I have no words to explain how amazing and loving person she was, the way she loved and cared for every single person that crossed paths with her is just beautiful. I’m thankful she introduced me to her very close friend (Nellie) but disappointed we will never have our graduation date:( Nellie and I have been in touch and sharing memories of her, I never knew how much I meant to her.
Ms. Thacker…thank you for everything you did for me and I’m sorry I didn’t get the time to return. I love you and miss you. May you Rest in Peace.
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Ivan Lopez • May 7, 2020 at 10:39 pm
Ms. Thacker will forever be missed by the counseling department. For 5 years, my office was right in front of her desk and I saw that Wakefield was more than a place of work for her. Wakefield was a home and a place where she wanted everyone to feel loved. She was welcoming and incredibly affectionate to everyone that she came across. As a counseling office, we often see students in their worse moments waiting to talk to a counselor but Ms. Thacker always made it a point to make every student feel loved. Whether it was by with simply acknowledging a student and saying “Hi baby”, giving them a quick pep talk, a hug, or some peanut butter crackers from her snack drawer, Ms. Thacker’s love was infectious. My deepest condolences go to her family and I hope she is at peace knowing that her Warrior Family loves her so much <3.
Ivan Lopez
Moada Mohamed • May 7, 2020 at 10:25 pm
There was nothing like walking into the counseling suite and hearing Mrs Thacker greet me with “hello my beautiful beautiful lady” or “my babies have arrived”!! Within two seconds she could put the biggest smile on my face, and make my day a whole lot brighter. Her hugs were something I went out of my way for; if I spotted her I’d have to make my way across a busy hallway or town hall to greet her, because I knew she’d leave me with a smile and a whole lot of love. I’ve never met anyone who radiated that much warmth and happiness, and i’m extremely thankful that I got to know her throughout this year. My thoughts are with her family and everyone who had the pleasure of being touched by such a phenomenal women.
Thanakorn Rasmeloungon • May 7, 2020 at 9:57 pm
Mrs Thacker was basically my aunt throughout freshman and sophomore year. Back in the 90s she helped out my dad and my aunt. Now that both my brousin and I are in Wakefield during my freshman year when i was a freshman and he was a sophomore, mrs thacker would care for us making sure that we ate and how our parents were doing. When My friend passed away in 2019 I fell into Mrs thacker arm crying and she comforted me and listened to what i had to say about my friend. When I rushed to school in the morning and didnt eat breakfast she would give me snacks to keep me fed. My brousin made a project design of a house she would live in when the future comes and we’re both successful. When i had a fever in school and layed down on her couch she took me to the nurse to make sure i was alright. Im gonna miss those hugs,snacks,talks,laughs,comfortjng words,stories. No more Mrs Thacker. My Dad and I were gonna invite her to dinner with my aunt and brousin when this was all over. We love you and miss you Mrs mary thacker we will never forget you.❤️❤️❤️
Heather Akpata • May 7, 2020 at 9:00 pm
I will miss Mary’s upbeat emails during the stressful times of posting grades. ? My thoughts are with Toby and family as they go through this very difficult time. She was a very “groovy” lady!
Heather Akpata
Kezzia Luzon • May 7, 2020 at 8:51 pm
Mrs. Thacker’s one of the teachers who made me feel that Wakefield is my second home. I see her everyday because Im in her 3rd period class. She would give us food everyday and make us feel good even though she was having a hard time taking calls and doing her job. She was a mother and a friend to me. Whenever I can’t see her because of early release dates, I would ask for passes so I could just get her hugs. Her hugs were the best. I know she is in a good place now. Rest in peace, Mrs Thacker. You are the best. I love you ❤️
Greg Cabana • May 7, 2020 at 8:45 pm
Thoughts are with Mr. Thacker and the family at this difficult time.
Additionally, this is a loss to the Wakefield family. Mary’s smile, cheerfulness, and groovy ways made everyone happier after each conversation with her. Posting grades will never be the same, passing by Mary’s desk won’t be the same, and Wakefield will not be the same.
Mary will be greatly missed by the Wakefield community. But she will also be remembered – remembered forever as a good person who gave her heart to the staff, parents, and students.